Not an easy social question. what is a fair way to decide about care for aging parents?
tigglys asked:
It seems more and more common these days – how can families come to a fair decision on this? Often adult children are in different locations across the States. Often the parent doesn’t want to relocate, but can’t live alone and no one wants to put them into a care facility.
It seems more and more common these days – how can families come to a fair decision on this? Often adult children are in different locations across the States. Often the parent doesn’t want to relocate, but can’t live alone and no one wants to put them into a care facility.
How is this fairly decided? Can siblings come to fair decisions over such an emotional issue? How can one that is being pressured avoid resentment (whether or not they decide to take their parent?) How do people deal with this?
I’m asking because I have a friend who’s in this type of spot, and another who has given up her life for the last 10 years to become her parent’s full-time caregiver (24/7) and I know others.
It seems like this is an issue our society needs to work out – but I have no idea what would work? What ideas do you have or things have you seen work elsewhere?
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May 12th, 2009 at 1:47 am
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have you ever heard the saying, one man can raise 10 children, but 10 children can’t take care of one man! isn’t that sad! i feel like i’m gonna do my part and i don’t care what my brothers and sisters do! i feel very strongly about taking care of my parents because of all they did for me! sometimes however, you have no choice but to put them somewhere where they will be taken care of but you have to make sure that they are beinhg taken care of by visiting regularly and letting the caregivers know that you are watching and that you won’t tolerate any neglect or abuse. you will never regret taking care of your parents!
May 12th, 2009 at 11:34 pm
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I am an only child and am caregiver for my father (94) who has Alzheimer’s. He lives with me, before that for 1 1/2 yrs l went there every day. He has been here 2 1/2 yrs. l can basically only go out in the early morning while he is still asleep. It gets hard on occasion but he took care of me when l was young. I will keep him with me as long as l can take care of him. I was the only one to make the decision but it was a little difficult to get him to come here. He didn’t want to leave his home, but when we decided to give it to my oldest grandson, he was happy about that. It is a tough problem and each family has to deal with it in their own way. Yeah, there are times I wish l had my life back but my daughter helps me when l need to go somewhere. I don’t have any solution, this is just what was best for me. He is sweet and easy to deal with so I’m blessed that way. Tell your friend l admire her for her 10 yrs. of care giving.